Avoid This One Pitfall When Planning Your Wedding Dinner Service

Have you ever thought the salads could pose a threat to your wedding speeches? At least where your photos and video are concerned, you might want to think twice.

Picture this for a moment…

Your guests have all been seated at your reception. You’ve done your grand entrances, fed each other cake, maybe a little welcome speech if you’re feeling crazy, and now it’s time to settle in. One of the most meaningful parts of the night is coming up – the part where your most treasured relationships will nervously grab the mic to speak life-giving words into you and your spouse. You will laugh, you will cry, you don’t know quite what to expect, and maybe you just hope that your new brother in law laid off the vodka tonics enough to stand up straight up there.

This is a climactic moment. You don’t want anything to distract. And you want to remember these speeches forever, which is why you’ve hired a stellar photographer and video team.

But something very dangerous is lurking around the corner. Believe it or not, the salads are about to start a war.



Perhaps you planned this wedding yourself and just didn’t know the hidden pitfalls lurking behind the many decisions you made, or you didn’t take your wedding planner’s advice on this issue. Nevertheless… 

Out come the salads. Your guests silently rejoice.

As the last salad plate is set down, the emcee announces the father of the bride. The king of all wedding speeches. He no doubt has dad jokes lined up out the door, but more than that has crafted a beautiful set of words that will bring tears to everyone’s eyes.

“Hello everybo- is this on?”

The emcee nods affirmatively.

“If.. if I could just have everybody’s attention for a moment..”

50% of the room hears him. The rest are clanging on dishes as they stab bites of lettuce with their salad forks.

“If I can just have everyone’s attention for a brief moment…”

“SHHHHHHH”, exclaims tables 6 and 8.

An additional 25% of the room quiets, but your cousin’s boyfriend drops his fork on the ground. More noise.

Disregarding the apparent threat to his speech that’s been 26 years in the making, dad continues on like only a dad could – fearlessly. Meanwhile the videographer is dying inside because he knows dad is about to say some great stuff that is going to be gold for the story, but all these audible distractions will be very tough to work around.

And so the speeches are delivered. People eventually quiet their voices but guests are still stabbing at their plates with forks, making noise and chewing food. You as the bride and groom don’t think much of it because your eyes and ears are fixed on your speech givers, but the photographer and videographer are having a challenging time. Every time they go to get a shot of a guest’s reaction to the speeches, or even the obvious shots of you and your spouse’s reactions, they find it tough to get a shot where someone isn’t in the middle of stuffing their face with a butter roll.


eating bread


Imagine how you look as your Maid of Honor ends with a quote from yours and her favorite Savage Garden song, and makes you tear up. Now you’re crying over Savage Garden and have lettuce in your mouth. Not exactly the Pinterest post your were hoping for. And all the while, the videographers heart has sunk. His/her team has put so much work into telling a moving story of the day, anticipating the speeches to be a major part of telling that story, and now realizing all that audio will be littered with distracting sounds of clanging dishes that are nearly impossible to remove in the editing process.

Brides and grooms – please don’t let this happen to you.

You have put too much thought and money into this wedding to have a major part of the day competing for attention with the food being served.

If you have hired a great wedding planner, he/she is an expert in wedding day pitfalls and you can trust that person to help you make decisions that take into account all the vendors’ needs. Great planners know what works and what doesn’t work based on having planned tons of weddings and seeing these things play out. They will save you a lot of stress and headache in the long run trying to think about all the “what ifs”, or wishing later that you had thought of more “what ifs”.

In either case, we know that you don’t want your guests to have to wait for food. So we suggest solving this problem by serving hors d’oeuvres during cocktail hour. That should hold them over for a bit and help them focus on the amazing words that will be shared from the mic. 

By separating the salad service from the speeches, the speech givers not only get the attention they deserve, but your photographer and videographer will be able to get really attractive shots of everyone (nobody likes to be filmed eating), and for the video you will be able to relive these speeches without the distracting sounds of chattering and clanging dishes in the background.

Want some recommendations for our favorite wedding planners? Don’t be shy about asking us. Even if you never hire Epic Motion for your wedding, we’re here to help. 



Salad pic: By 酒池肉林 at Chinese Wikipedia [GFDL (http://www.gnu.org/copyleft/fdl.html) or CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/)], via Wikimedia Commons

Bread GIF: ABC/Walt Disney Television/GIF: ethereal-rose.tumblr.com

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